Today there are so many new arts of cheating which have plundered so many relationships into the deep abyss. The revolution of technology and social media in particular have exacerbated cheating in relationships, writes Enock wa Shishenge.
*Disclaimer: the aim of this article is not to plant distrust, mistrust and disloyalty between partners, but to scrutinize lifestyles of men and women in relationships. The content is a bit heavier. You consume it at your own risk.
How many people have never cheated? If you have never cheated stop reading this. Be warned: – never say never. Most of you will be enlightened after reading this article because it will uncover untold truths as if I am talking about you and your partners. But 𝒂 𝒕𝒊 𝒓𝒆𝒍𝒆𝒌𝒊𝒔𝒊 𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒘𝒆𝒏𝒚𝒂 – it’s a reality of life. I am aware that these opinions might be regarded as the paralysis of analysis by ‘those,’ but what I like is that the light shall be shared.
There is a new saying that goes like: “𝑬𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒘𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒂 𝒑𝒐𝒕𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒂𝒍 𝒐𝒇 𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒂𝒍𝒎𝒐𝒔𝒕 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝒄𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒕.” It’s easier for a man to be caught when he cheats than it is for a woman. The reason is 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 women are able to forgive – a woman can find you on top of another woman and still forgives you. How simple is that? It happened in the past and it still happens today. Women are creations of a special type. If a man finds out that his partner cheats it becomes the end of her or the relationship. That is the spark of much domestic violence we hear and read about in our main stream media. But if a man finds out he gets out of his mind and becomes so mad. These are pure facts. Men close all the doors of their ears once they find a woman in such a situation.
Cheating means to behave dishonestly or have sex with someone who is not your partner, husband or wife –how many times have you behaved in such a way? To behave dishonestly may also mean not to tell your partner certain things such as that you still keep in contact with your ex without their knowledge; kissing someone at a party; admiring his/her friend; giving an opposite stranger your cell phone numbers, etc. Today there are so many new arts of cheating which have plundered so many relationships into the deep abyss. The revolution of technology and social media in particular have exacerbated cheating in relationships.
If there is a person who can attest to the fact that every woman has a potential to cheat is me, based on the experience I have with ekasi lifestyle – and if there is another person who can further attest that almost every man cheats is still me, with the contact I have kept with friends and foes ekasi. People cheat for different reasons: – they cheat because they are not happy in their relationships – though there is no such a thing as 100% happiness in relationships; some cheat for the love of money; others cheat with people in positions of power; and some are just natural whores or cassanovas. Are you able to identify the reason that might lead your partner to cheat? If not 𝒖 𝒕𝒂 𝒍𝒖𝒎𝒂𝒍𝒂!
Social media such as Whatapp, Twitter, Instagram and Facebook etc. are, at times, the root cause of cheating. What feeling do you have when your partner is always on WhatsApp which has now become a norm? When you ask them what they are laughing at , do you ever expect an honest answer? Never!
So don’t even bother to ask. We have heard people saying: ‘I am talking to Portia while it’s John’. ‘I am talking to Jack while it’s Rose’. Once you inbox problems on FACEBOOK or text them on Twitter or any other social media the scavengers will always have a way to pretend as if they are empathetic, especially with women who seem to be so vulnerable. I have seen so many women engaging in (sexual) cheating because they needed a shoulder to cry on and it’s very rare not to find a man who is not available to assist a woman. 𝑽𝒂𝒗𝒂𝒏𝒖𝒏𝒂 𝒗𝒂 𝒕𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒎𝒂 𝒗𝒂 𝒉𝒍𝒐𝒎𝒊𝒍𝒆 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒍𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒉𝒊.
I have seen and heard of so many people cheating at workplaces as a result of power relations; I have seen worse situations at churches – the latest is that of the pastor with a cut; I have seen and heard of wives cheating with plumbers, builders, painters, gardeners whilst husbands were away; I have seen and heard of husbands who cheat with maids, colleagues, neighbours whilst their wives are not there and I know of untrustworthy friends who smile with you while they sleep with your wife or husband ekasi. Is this thing a natural thing– to cheat? That is my question to you my brothers and sisters. Let’s have a civil debate about this issue…
*Read her/his speeches; what s/he says tells you a lot; what s/he does means a lot; read her/his lips – and ask simple questions and listen to answers you will get the truths. No matter how a person can cheat on you never think of taking her/his life – just move on with your life. Killing your partner for cheating should be a thing of the past because everyone is a potential cheat. That’s life. 𝑰 𝒗𝒖𝒕𝒐𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒚𝒂𝒏𝒂 𝒃𝒚𝒂 𝒌𝒐𝒏𝒂. 𝑳𝒐𝒌𝒐 𝒌𝒖 𝒓𝒊 𝒖 𝒕𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒎𝒂 𝒖 𝒃𝒂𝒚𝒊𝒛𝒊𝒔𝒂 𝒏𝒔𝒂𝒕𝒊 𝒘𝒂 𝒎𝒖𝒏𝒉𝒖 𝒏𝒂 𝒘𝒆𝒏𝒂 𝒔𝒘𝒊 𝒂𝒎𝒖𝒌𝒆𝒍𝒊; 𝒍𝒐𝒌𝒐 𝒌𝒖 𝒓𝒊 𝒖 𝒃𝒂𝒚𝒊𝒛𝒊𝒔𝒂 𝒏𝒖𝒏𝒂 𝒘𝒂 𝒗𝒂𝒏𝒉𝒖 𝒏𝒂 𝒘𝒆𝒏𝒂 𝒘𝒂 𝒘𝒆𝒏𝒂 𝒗𝒂 𝒏𝒈𝒂 𝒏𝒘𝒊 𝒃𝒂𝒚𝒊𝒛𝒊𝒔𝒂.